By Nina Chatzistergiou,
Disappointment hurts. There is no point in lying. Sometimes it hurts a little and sometimes a lot. It can take you into a vicious circle for days or even weeks.
But, if you learn how to deal with the frustration that follows, then it can be much less scary and painful and a starting point or learning experience for further personal development.
Firstly, disappointment, as stated beforehand, hurts. But this is logical and normal. Do not try to avoid it. And do not try to hide it under a big smile. As strange as it may sound to you, you should not succumb to such tempting impulses.
Instead, think of these as actions that you must take regularly. Even if you are in pain for a while. Because in the end, if you process the situation, it will be less painful in the long run.
If you reject how you sincerely feel and hide them deep inside you, then these feelings may come to the surface later and at unexpected moments. And this will spoil your mood, make you pessimistic, or even aggressive.
Just because you were disappointed or had a failure or made a mistake and disappointed someone else, does not mean you are a disappointment or a failure. And this situation you are in now will not last forever. Even if you feel that way today.
The truth is, just because you were disappointed today or disappointed in someone, does not mean it will happen tomorrow or next time. Know that frustration does not characterize you as a person. Unless you choose to put this label on yourself. If you continue to move forward and take action, then you will improve, and your life will change for the better.
Instead of indulging in the pain and negative emotions that can result from frustration, choose to see it more as something from which you can learn valuable things and something that will help you mature.
Who is never disappointed? But, of course, those who are never kicked out or never get out of their comfort zone. Everyone who has achieved something in their life, and you admire them, has gone through many disappointments, failures, and mistakes. Failures and frustrations are an integral part of life. Especially for those who pursue their dreams and goals.
Disappointment is a sign that you are trying to improve and mature. That you are trying to change your current situation. Having this in mind will help you stay strong and handle obstacles and failures more easily.
To move forward in your life, you need to focus on what you already have in your life. There are many things that we take for granted such as people, relationships, jobs, passions, health, things, etc. Feeling grateful will help you appreciate situations and people, change the negative attitude, and not a disappointment to spoil your mood in the long run.
One of the most powerful ways to deal with disappointment is to open up and discuss it with someone very close to you, either family or friends. In this way, you can release this inner pressure and tension, clear things up for yourself, and accept what has happened instead of trying to hide or ignore it.
Constant focus on goals and an ardent desire to achieve them, can cause unnecessary stress and make you lose your temper. Sometimes you just need a break to get over a disappointment. So, take some time to rest, relax and have fun. After a break you will be able to accept a situation more calmly, learn from your mistakes and continue stronger.
To conclude though, if you tend to think too much of the problem and your mind is constantly stuck in a negative state or if you are thinking in a negative state for a long time do something else to forget. Find something that will stop the negative thoughts from having a party in your mind.